august goals

Okay, here we go *takes deep breath* I am going to actually post goals for August. Goals posts are usually some of my favorite posts to write and read, but the pandemic has left me feeling like setting goals and trying to stick to my usual level of motivation about things is pointless. However, I have come to the conclusion that we are probably going to be dealing with this for a long time, so I can’t be despondent forever, and having goals really helps me focus my mind and makes me feel good when I achieve them or even just work toward them.

So, this month, we are back to doing a monthly goals post.

goals

  • Read 5 novels. I was really proud of myself for reading 9 books in July, and in August I want to devote the energy I gave the graphic novels that helped me achieve that number to written novels I need to read.
  • Read 2 Book of the Month books. I have been enjoying my subscription to BOTM, but I definitely have not read all the books I’ve gotten from it. I also got my mom a gift subscription so we can read the same book and discuss, so for this month I hope to read one of my previous BOTM books and whichever book I pick for August.
  • Participate in ARC August. I used to love participating in Read. Sleep. Repeat’s ARC August & ARC April and always knocked a lot of ARCs off my TBR. I was thrilled to see they’re still doing ARC August, so I will for sure be participating.
  • Don’t spend money on anything non-essential. I have a few big expenses coming up and want to do better at saving money, too, and I know I need to cut down on non-essential spending. This means: no hair dye, no makeup, no planner stuff, no books.
  • Eat out less. Most of my money in July went to non-essential spending and eating out, so I also want to reduce the number of times per week I order in from restaurants.
  • Drink more water. I used to be really good about staying hydrated during the day but since the pandemic hit that has also fallen to the wayside and I mostly drink non hydrating things.
  • Stay up past 10 at least one night. Okay, I know I sound old with this goal, but I have a weird anxiety thing about staying up past a certain time. Once my brain decides it’s time to go to bed, I start feeling INCREDIBLY anxious if I try to stay up. So I basically want to prove to my brain that the world will not end if I stay up past a certain hour.

Things that happened & what i read during quarantine

Today’s post is going to be something a little different. I almost did a traditional wrap up for May-June, but I decided I’d rather talk about things that happened and some highlights of what I’ve read.

  • I went home to see my parents. Actually, I saw both me and my partner’s parents over quarantine once the stay at home orders were lifted. I was really proud of myself because I drove 5 hours by myself, which is the most I’ve driven alone since I moved to where I am now. I was really happy to see my parents because I hadn’t seen them since December, and I always find it so relaxing to go home.
  • My partner’s parents got a really cute dog. Normally, I am NOT a dog person, but this is the floofiest, cutest puppy I have ever seen and he really liked me and cuddled me and I am a fan of that dog. He will grow up to be a Good Boy.
  • I read FELIX EVER AFTER. Aka, the best queer book this year. Honestly the best one I’ve read in a while. This book is about a trans boy who gets outed at school and catfishes the person who he thinks is responsible to get revenge. There are a million and a half things I loved about this book, one of the top being that Felix keeps questioning his gender identity throughout the book even though he’s been “out” as trans and has a best friend who accepts him and is so respectful about asking what his new pronouns are. It’s also the first time I’ve seen demi rep in a book. I just felt like I saw myself so much in this book and in Felix’s struggles and joys and I simply loved it.
  • My parents got me an iPad. I am in love with it. I had suddenly started thinking about getting an iPad before I went home, and then my mom offered to get me one for an early birthday gift, and it has honestly made quarantine so much more bearable.
  • I read I’LL BE THE ONE by Lyla Lee. This book, like FELIX, was one of my most anticipated books of the year. It’s about a plus size girl who goes to compete in a k-pop competition and falls in love with a semi-celebrity. I thought the fat rep in this one was really good, and so close to my own experiences being overweight. I really related to Skye at some points. I was also thrilled to see a bisexual character not end up with someone of the same gender because I feel like that’s so rare in bi representation and it’s something I look for because that’s what happened to me, and it was nice to see a bi character attracted to a boy and not feel ashamed or be shamed for it by other queer characters.
  • I contemplated starting 2 new blogs. I don’t know why this was considering I wasn’t even blogging on one blog. I think it was mainly because I was so unmotivated by blogging and have been feeling really disconnected from witchcraft because I haven’t been doing something daily to practice it like I normally do, so having a witchcraft themed blog felt kind of pointless. But, I also wanted to start a professional library-related blog that I can put on resumes, because I’m starting to worry about putting a blog with so much personal stuff on a resume.
  • Oh my god, Twitter started being really draining. I’ve thought about deleting my account there a lot, but there are some bookish friends I only talk to on Twitter, plus it’s responsible for me and my partner getting together. But it’s been a minefield lately for me with people QRT’ing transphobic stuff all over the place and abusers being outed and reminding me of painful and traumatic experiences I’ve had. It just seems like it’s something new every day and it is too much sometimes.
  • I read A SONG BELOW WATER by Bethany C. Morrow. This was pitched as a #SayHerName novel about two magical Black girls (including one siren!!) I loved all the mythos in this book and the relationship between the two found family sisters. This was such a powerful story that I think would be empowering and validating to a lot of young Black girl readers, and I’ll definitely be pestering our teen librarian to request it for our library when we’re buying materials again because it’s SO GOOD.

may goals

I wish I had a clever intro for this post, but let’s just get to how I did with my April goals and what my May goals will be for now, shall we?

 

april goals

  • Get active minutes 5x/week.    xx     Did not do this.
  • Put away my clothes after the laundry every week.      xx       Definitely did not do this.
  • Stick to a budget.         xx       Did not do this but was not over budget.
  • Participate in the OWLS Readathon!         !!          I did this!
  • Participate in BookEnding Spring.         !!             I did 3 posts for BookEnding Spring.
  • Participate in Dewey’s 24-hr Readathon.       !!           I participated for about 3 hours, but I’m counting it.

 

may goals

  • Celebrate Beltane. Over the past couple years, I haven’t celebrated any witchy spring sabbats or esbats, but since I’m home I figure I might as well. I don’t really feel a personal connection to the spring-y holidays, but after reading THREE DARK CROWNS, I think Beltane is going to be a new favorite holiday because it holds so much significance in the series.
  • Finish 5 books. I’m saying “finish” because I started a bunch mid-late April but never finished them, and I don’t want to feel like I have to finish those AND start and finish 5 others. Ideally I’d like to read a lot more than that since I’m still in isolation, but we’ll see how it goes.
  • Meet my step goal 5x/week. Before isolation, I was doing super well at meeting 10,000 steps per day, but obviously I don’t have anywhere to go now so it’s hard to meet that so I’ve lowered my goal significantly, but still often don’t meet it because I’m finding it challenging to motivate myself to do much of anything these days because of quarantine blues.
  • Limit sugar intake to 2x/week. Baking is definitely a huge comfort for me right now, but I had been making a lot of progress on cultivating healthy eating habits over the past couple months so I don’t want to totally fall off the wagon and have to start from a worse off place than when I started in January when this is all over.

what i’ve been doing while isolated: round 2

Hello, and, unfortunately, welcome to another edition of What I’ve Been Doing While Isolated. You can read round 1 of What I’ve Been Doing While Isolated here. Let’s hope this does not become a regular feature on this blog. However, I find it helpful to write about my life experiences when I’m stressed and in general and let me tell you: I am very stressed.

So here we go with more things I’ve been doing while isolated (although honestly, I could just say “not much of anything really” and be done with it).

 

  • Annoying the crap out of my boyfriend and parents. I am very fortunate to be isolated with my significant other but I have now reached the Intense Boredom stage of isolation and always want to bother him or my parents (via phone) and I think they can tell I am losing my shit. Seriously though, I would be totally bananas without my boyfriend.
  • Spending my time with very excited cats. My cat Willow is especially pumped that I am home. He has been waking me up at 3 most mornings this week to purr and ask for pets and food. I think both cats are confused about what time it is because they are not used to both their humans being home all day every day. But they are loving getting mommy cuddles and attention.
  • Casting spells. Okay, this should be “spell” singular. But I’ve been looking for magic to do while isolated with the herbs and spices and general materials I already have at home.
  • Researching paganism. Kind of casually for the most part, but I have done a bit of research on different types of paganism since being isolated because I had a dream about a deity which has never happened to me and pulled two tarot cards that seemed to represent her which is something I have never experienced.
  • Avoiding reading. I don’t know why but I’ve just been super avoiding reading since being isolated. I’ve read one good book and am in the middle of two, but for some reason I just can’t seem to motivate myself to read more even though isolation would definitely be better if I read more. I just haven’t been feeling super invested in reading for a long time now and I’m very frustrated by that because reading used to be something I loved doing and did at every spare opportunity. But now I just beat myself up because I can’t read as much or deeply as I used to be able to which has made it distinctly Not Fun.
  • A lot of laundry. I don’t?? Know why? I have so many pants?? I really don’t need to be doing this much laundry given I don’t need to go out and wear stuff to work.
  • Cooking more. This is kind of out of necessity and kind of because I have more energy to do so and kind of because it is comforting. I have now discovered more things I like to eat instead of my two things I usually make during the week as dinners and am pleased with myself. I made perfect mashed potatoes last week and was super proud of myself.
  • Journaling. I really love to use my bullet journal at the best of times and during the worst times (aka now and also probably soon) it is very helpful. I’ve been at a bit of a loss of what to use it for because I don’t have a set schedule to track or anything and a lot of stuff is up in the air, but I find the act of journaling very soothing.
  • Researching junk journaling. I don’t know how to explain junk journaling, but it’s more like art journaling and scrapbooking combined? It is definitely something I want to do when I have more access to materials and art supplies again.
  • Bleaching my hair. This seemed like a good time to try a new hair color because nobody will see me if it goes south, and I have time to bleach it properly and not damage my hair. It will be a smokey lavender color hopefully when complete. Currently it is golden.

 

Maybe, if this post continues to be a thing, I will one day have more interesting things to report. What have you all been doing while social distancing? How is everyone coping? Tell me in the comments.

if we were having tea

If We Were Having Tea is a personal post I do every now and then to check in with myself and in the hopes that you will all let me know how you are all doing in the comments. Lots has happened recently, so I felt it was time to do another If We Were Having Tea post. So, grab a blanket and maybe a kitty (or other floof), a cup of your favorite cozy beverage, and settle in for a life update from your favorite witch:

 

If we were having tea…I’d tell you that all things considered, I’m actually doing a lot better than I would have been a few months ago. I keep thinking thank GOD I did my serious mental health treatment back in November because I do not think I would be okay right now if I hadn’t. I’m low-key down probably a little over half the time, but I think that’s to be expected given the circumstances. I feel like crying sometimes but restrain myself somehow because I kind of feel like if I let myself fall apart I’ll become a wreck and nobody wants that. I know crying about all this would probably be healthier in the long run, but I just can’t let myself do it yet.

If we were having tea…I’d tell you I’ve had enough of a break from work and am ready to go back, lol. I tend to get super burnt out by librarianship every three or four months, and I was definitely approaching burn out territory when this all started, but now I’m ready to not be a telecommuting librarian. Another job would be fine to telecommute, but I actually kind of miss some patrons and having daily interactions with people even though doing it constantly is draining? It’s weird; on the one hand, I know librarianship might not be what I want to do forever, but I also kind of miss doing it and having those interactions with people.

If we were having tea…I’d say I’m really worried about what people in the city are going to do to participate in the census. The library system where I work was going to be a huge census pusher to make sure everyone gets counted so the city/state can get the funding it needs, and that’s even more important this year. I’m also worried about how my kids who probably don’t have computers at home are doing. I’m also trying to emotionally and professionally prepare myself to do a lot of helping with job hunting when we go back, because lots of people will be facing unemployment. I’m taking two courses right now about job search/resumes, so I’m hoping I’ll feel more confident helping people with that by the time we go back.

If we were having tea…I’d talk about how I’m not really enjoying anything right now and am finding it hard to focus, especially on reading. I’m debating just going and trying to read all my most anticipated reads while I’m off to give myself something more to be excited about with reading, since I’m finding it hard to connect with what I’ve been trying to read. I’m also putting a weird amount of pressure on myself with my bullet journal all of a sudden and feel like every page that goes in has to be perfect.

If we were having tea…I’d say thank goodness for My Little Pony. Last month, I met someone on the Bumble BFF app who turned out to also be into MLP, which I used to love in college, and I was inspired to rewatch and then continue the show. Honestly, I relate so much to Twilight Sparkle; she’s such a Virgo. This show is so comforting and sweet and cute and pastel and just what I need right now.

If we were having tea…I’d tell you that I’ve been kind of interested in trying junk journaling. From what I gathered from the Junk Journal Junkies FB group, a junk journal is a journal of ephemera, pretty paper, and kind of like an art journal/scrapbook hybrid. It reminds me kind of of this project I did in high school where I had to make a Book of Self with an old book I didn’t want anymore, which was super hard for me because I love all books. But it seems like a hobby I’d enjoy for sure, and I kind of want to make a paranormal junk journal/witchy junk journal.

If we were having tea…I’d say I’m weirdly inspired by Tumblr right now?? I’ve been into it since discovering witchblr two years ago and accidentally making a witchblr that now has 3,000+ followers, but I there are just so many facets of Tumblr that fascinate me, like dark academia Tumblr and studyblr and cottagecore Tumblr and soft&delicate aesthetic Tumblr. I feel weird about this because I feel like lots of younger people are on Tumblr but I just really enjoy scrolling Tumblr and making a million Tumblrs that I can’t keep up with.

If we were having tea…I’d tell you I’m anxious a lot of the time because of all the uncertainty in the world and my life. My state just got a shelter in place order, and I know I definitely won’t be going back to work before that is lifted, and probably not even until the state of emergency is lifted. It’s hard to keep going when so much is up in the air, and I don’t know what life is going to look like in two months, or even a week. But overall, I am doing fairly alright, and I’m very grateful to be in a position where I am off work but still able to get paid and keep my health insurance, because I know many people are struggling. But there’s still a lot of uncertainty, and that’s really hard to stomach sometimes.

 

How are you all doing? Are you on Tumblr? Tell me in the comments!

what i’ve done while isolated so far

Writing has always been a useful outlet for me, so I’ve decided to try and use it more during the COVID-19 outbreak both to keep a record of what has been going on for the future and also to help keep myself sane. Originally, the library system where I work was just going to be closed to the public, but now we’re closed even to staff and I’ve been at home for the past few days. Today, I’ll be sharing some of what I’ve done while out of work so far:

 

  • Made a lot of lists. Bullet journaling has been a really helpful creative and practical outlet for me in recent years, and I’ve continued that trend while out of work. I’ve been making a lot of lists, including recipes to cook from a cookbook I checked out from the library before we closed, books to read, books I currently have on loan, things to do other than stress eat, and even a list of lists, because I am Twilight Sparkle (My Little Pony, anyone??) These lists are really helping me with my anxiety.
  • Teleworking. I won’t talk too much about this here because I think I may do a separate post of what I’ve been doing as a public librarian to telework, but I’m technically supposed to be working from home during this time.
  • Stress eating. Omfg, I’ve gained 3-4 pounds back over the past week because I’ve been eating so much. I had been doing so well with healthy eating for a couple months so this feels like a major setback and I know I need to get it together and eat better, but cooking is so comforting so it’s hard to give up.
  • Bought the Sims 4 on sale. The Sims 4 was on sale for $5 and the magic sims 4 game was on sale for $15 so I bought both because I figured now is a good time to get into the Sims.
  • Had a lot of plague nightmares. I keep having nightmares and especially plague nightmares. I also have had dreams about writing a YA plague book. Clearly I am stressed.
  • Started the Throne of Glass series. I figured since I may not be going back to work any time soon if the mayor of the city where I work is smart that now would be a good time to binge read a couple series I’ve missed out on. I’m starting with THRONE OF GLASS and then maybe moving on to the Shadowhunters books because there are a million of them.
  • Rewatching My Little Pony. I loved MLP in college and still do, so I decided to rewatch it and then continue on to the seasons I haven’t seen yet. It’s so adorable and comforting and just the thing I need right now.
  • Being on Twitter too much. I saw an author I follow say he takes 3 hours off social media a day and I feel like this would be a really good thing for me to do because I’ve been on Twitter WAY too much for my own sanity considering every tweet is about COVID-19 and being isolated and quarantined and toilet paper running out. On the one hand I do feel better connecting with my friends on Twitter, but on the other seeing EVERYONE post about the virus is stressful.

 

I think that pretty much covers everything I’ve been doing over the past few days. I’m supposed to go back to work March 30th, but if things escalate like the news keeps saying it will based on other countries like Italy, I’ll be shocked if the library opens back up and think it would be super irresponsible to staff and patrons if it did. I’m really stressed about the prospect of having to go back to work in the middle of a pandemic but I’m hoping the city will do the right thing and have everybody stay home because I would not be comfortable going back in.

 

is anybody else working from home? what have you been doing while isolated to stay sane?

2019 goals: how i did

Since I started bullet journaling in 2016-ish, I have been very interested in making goals every new year. I spend a lot of time in December thinking about my goals for the next year, and plotting them and planning my goals pages in my journal, and then…I accomplish none of the goals. With that in mind, I wanted to do a recap of my 2019 goals and see how many I did not do (lol).

 

personal

  • Be more positive/practice gratitude.      !!     I didn’t do this for most of the year because I was EXTREMELY depressed, but I’ve been doing it a lot lately, and I’m going to count this one as done.
  • Find a hobby.          X!       I don’t know if I did this? I guess journaling more could count even though I already did it before this year??

 

career/financial

  • Find a job that makes me happy.         X!          I ended up transferring to a new branch of my library system where I worked this year and working in the children’s department. Depression really made it a struggle to like anything, but things have been a lot better lately so I’m hoping I’ll be happier at the job now.

 

health

  • Work out 4x per week.               XX         lolol depression kills another goal yet again.
  • Eliminate caffeine.            XX       I think I did this for approximately 4 weeks of the whole year, so no.

 

self-care

  • Get more alone time.          X!        I didn’t do this for most of the year but then I took leave from work for almost a month so I did get more alone time. I still don’t really actively try to separate myself from my boyfriend, but I’ve realized sometimes I like us just sitting together in a room even if we’re not talking. I don’t always like going to a different room entirely because it makes me feel isolated and trapped.
  • Make my apartment feel more like home.       XX         I did not do this. Having lots of annoying neighbors and two exploding ceiling disasters really did not help me like the apartment more. I’m still really struggling with this, which is unfortunate because I’m going to be here for at least another whole year.

 

blogging

  • Reach 500 followers.       !!        I did this!!
  • Also stop worrying as much about follower counts.       !!        I didn’t worry as much or feel as pressured to get followers, so that’s something.
  • Improve my post formatting.         !!         I have found styles of posts that work for me, and I’ve realized I don’t have to format my posts like everyone else. I am fine with the way I format my posts now.
  • Work on images for posts.       XX         lolololol did NOT do this. All my featured posts are from Unsplash.

that time i drew the tower before starting a new job

If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know that a) I’m a librarian and b) that back in August, I transferred libraries in the library system where I had been working for over a year to become a children’s librarian. Though I was excited for this change because I’ve been interested in becoming a children’s librarian, I was also very nervous because it was, well, a change. So, being witchy, I decided to consult my tarot cards.

The card I ended up pick was the tower.

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Now, for those who aren’t familiar with tarot, the tower is not one of the more desirable cards. People dread picking the Tower, along with Death, the Devil, and some of the minor arcana like Three of Swords, because the Tower represents a shattering and destruction of a fundamental structure in your life.

So, naturally, I was a little upset about getting the Tower right before making a major life change.

Now that I’ve been at the job for a few months, I can say that this card was probably accurate. In some ways, it was accurate in the traditional, negative way. By transferring, I did lose daily in-person contact with my best work friend, who has always been a major source of support for me since starting this job.

But, the Tower also seems to represent in this case a huge change in my life in terms of shattering some old attitudes I had about the job and saying “good riddance” to them. Since starting my recovery journey from depression, I’ve definitely noticed a huge change in my attitude about my job. I’m a lot better at not blaming myself when people, whether it be patrons or coworkers, are negative towards me when it’s not actually my fault. I actually enjoy helping people, and am willing to sit with someone to solve their problem. A lot of my main fears about the job have started to ebb and go away, which has made the day-to-day of the job much less stressful.

The Tower can represent a change in the structures of your life, and a change in PERSPECTIVE. The “structure” that has been shattered the most is my overbearing negativity about my job. I’m sure there will be times when I don’t like it, but my hope is that overall, I’ll be able to remember why I became a librarian in the first place.

In the end, the Tower card ended up being an accurate representation of my experience on this job, though not for the negative reasons I first predicted. Because the Tower came to pass, I’m a lot stronger, both as a person and as a librarian. So, if you get a card like the Tower in a tarot reading, it’s not necessarily a reason to be afraid! Sometimes, a card like the Tower can just mean that you should open yourself up to change and, if you’re lucky, you can still come out on top.

things i want to do

I wrote a draft of this post about a year ago when I was feeling super down and depressed, and then ended up not posting it and keeping it for myself because I worried it was too personal. I’ve definitely been feeling down again, which is largely why I took a hiatus again, but writing my morning pages for The Artist’s Way and coming up with a more concrete treatment plan have been helping me feel a little hopeful, and I wanted to share this list of things I want to do in the hopes that maybe it will help someone who’s in a similar dark emotional place think of things they want to do that will make them want to keep on going. So, here’s a list of things I want to do:

  • Get a job I’m passionate about. I am liking the new librarian job better than the old one, and think I might like it even better if I was feeling better, but I’m still not sure if being a librarian is what I want to do for the rest of my life, and when I talked to an old coworker about it, she said I owe it to myself to find out, which I think is true.
  • Marry my bae. He is great. I feel like I should have more to say than that but honestly, “he is great” just about sums it up because…he is?? Like…idk I just really love him a lot?
  • Move to a bigger place. I’ve talked a lot on here about hating my apartment, one of the reasons being that it’s very small and it’s impossible to feel like I ever get alone time. Plus, the cats get the cat crazies a lot and don’t have enough room to run around so they tear everything up with their little clawpaws instead.
  • Work on my grimoire more. I definitely want to do more witchy stuff in general. I feel very connected to witchcraft for a lot of reasons. Carrying my crystals around has been more helpful to my mental health lately than almost anything else, and I love connecting with the witchy community online because everyone is so supportive.
  • Get a new car. My car is very old and beat up because it has seen a couple accidents on my watch, and I just hate looking at it and feeling guilty about them and also want a hybrid.
  • Learn ukulele. This one is actually kind of inspired by my mom, who retired this past year and decided she wanted to learn an instrument and is taking ukulele classes. I’ve always wanted to learn an instrument like ukulele or guitar to accompany myself while singing, and I feel like if my mom can do it, I can too! Plus, it would be fun to play together because music is something I’ve never been able to share in that way with her even though my family was always extremely supportive of my music, so it would be a fun way to connect.
  • Write a book. Eventually. I have so many ideas for books that I’m passionate and excited about, but am scared to write them for some reason.
  • Write poetry. Something I’m not scared to write is poetry, because with Instagram poetry there’s such a variety out there that people like. I know I can write like some of the poets I follow, and I enjoy writing it. I always feel inspired to write poetry when I read it, and I want to take my poetry somewhere someday.
  • Rescue all the cats. I just?? Love?? Cats so much? I already have two but I just want to save all the kitties and have kitties everywhere being happy and safe and loved and cared for.
  • Reach 1,000 blog followers. I’m almost at 500 followers, so almost halfway there! I never thought I’d even make that many followers and am excited to meet that. I milestone, and it seems possible now that I can reach even more people eventually. I know I shouldn’t attach social media stats to my self-worth and for the most part I don’t, but it would just be such a satisfying milestone to reach.
  • Change my name and pronouns. I really want to go by Mel in real life because it feels more me for a lot of reasons, including that it’s kind of gender neutral, and I want to use they/them pronouns. I feel very strongly that I am nonbinary, and I want to express it more in real life even though it’s kind of scary because I know I’ll have to be assertive and correct people a lot because I don’t present as masculine as I want to and look very feminine. *I wrote this post before I did this but I have started doing it YAY*
  • Experiment with YouTube. I’ve been staunchly avoiding Booktube for a long time, but lately I’ve been watching some booktubers I actually really like and find super inspiring, and kind of want to try my hand at it as well and see if it’s something I could be good at.
  • Feel more okay than not. Obviously, recovery is the ultimate goal for me. I just want to know what it feels like to have “okay” be my baseline emotion instead of “lowkey depressed.” I want to be able to let myself be happy and not feel like it’s all going to come crashing down. I want to have more okay days than bad days, and even be able to have a good day once in a while. I want more nuance in my emotions, and not just be below okay all the time.

On a semi-related note, I just want to thank everyone who’s reached out on this blog and on Twitter when I’ve written about my mental health struggles. Knowing that people see me and care about me even though they’ve never met me in real life (minus Kayli, we know each other in real life, lol) is just so comforting, and honestly even virtual hugs and encouragement are just so helpful. So thank you, and I hope to share some better news sometime soon.

tips for depressed book bloggers

So apparently the theme on this blog this week is depression? I’m sorry? But also, it appears to be mental health awareness week so if there was a good week to write about this stuff, it would be this week. Yesterday, I wrote some tips for depressed witches, but I also thought of some that might be useful to book bloggers. Please note these are just tips, obviously I’m not saying you must do these things; everyone deals with depression differently so it’s up to you to pick and choose what those things might be.

 

what to read

  • If you want to escape your life…try fantasy! I think one of the main reasons I’ve gotten into fantasy more in the past couple of years was because when I read, I really didn’t want to be reminded of my real life struggles, so reading about quests and prophecies and magic really helped distract me from what was going on in my life.
  • If you need a jolt of happiness…try romance! I only started reading romance this year, but it’s such a nice break from what I normally read and being able to count on an HEA is just what I need when I’m feeling down sometimes.
  • If you want to feel seen…try contemporary! I read pretty much exclusively dark, gritty contemporaries throughout my teen years because I just wanted to feel seen and understood and know I wasn’t alone. If you’re feeling alone in your struggles, I would definitely recommend reading contemporary novels.

 

other tips

  • Don’t put pressure on yourself to read if you don’t want to! I’ve noticed it’s always a toss up if reading actually helps my depression or not. Sometimes reading is a good distraction, but other times my anxiety/depression makes it hard to concentrate on anything for too long. It’s important to do what’s right for you when it comes to reading, and try not to feel bad or guilty if you feel like you can’t read for a while.
  • Interact with other bloggers. If you’re the kind of person who isolates yourself when you’re depressed, you may want to try interacting with other people online, even if it’s not necessarily responding to comments on your own blog, just as a low-key way to keep yourself talking to people.
  • Take a hiatus. I did this recently and it kind of helped. Don’t feel like you have to keep blogging when you’re going through a hard time. Depression can make you feel like you have too much on your plate, and if blogging is something you might want to remove from your plate for a while, don’t feel bad if you need to take a break!